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Grief over graduation

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As cap and gown order forms were distributed early last month, I felt mixed emotions.  Rather than the typical feelings of sadness associated with the end of high school, I was upset that I may not be able to attend my own graduation.  Due to the new schedule implemented this year, graduation falls on the Sunday of Memorial Day Weekend.  A potential rationale behind this selected date was that students and teachers alike would not have to return to school after Memorial Day.  The assumption was that people would be able to attend graduation because it would be on the Sunday of a holiday weekend, a time when many people would not have work.

The selected date and time pose many obstacles. For Christians who attend a morning mass, graduation at noon poses a dilemma.  They must choose between their religious obligations and the graduation ceremony.  For those who frequently vacation during Memorial day weekend, their plans must be altered or cancelled altogether.  This creates an inconvenience for both students and teachers. Not only seniors and their families, but also students who play in the band, and our faculty, must spend their holiday weekend stuck in Chicago.

However, the conflict that is personally causing me aggravation is the fact that this year’s graduation and the Jewish holiday of Shavuot overlap.  Since before the school year began, a few friends and I realized that we may not even be able to attend our own high school graduation.

For those of you who are unaware, there are certain limitations when observing the Jewish Sabbath or Jewish holidays. Religious Jews cannot drive on the sabbath or on holidays, and cannot use any electronic devices.

My family and I would have to walk almost six miles round-trip to attend graduation. While that may not seem like such a terrible thing, let’s not forget that we live in Chicago. There is absolutely no consistency in the weather, meaning that any extreme weather conditions would eliminate my participation altogether.

When this issue was brought before the board of education, they quickly decided that there was nothing that could be done. Even though graduation was more nine months away, they were not able to change the date. And while we are still working towards a solution, my participation in graduation will definitely be limited.

No student should be placed in a position where they cannot attend their graduation because of the observance of a religious duty.  Throughout my high school years I have missed numerous school functions due to the fact that they conflicted with Jewish holidays or the Jewish Sabbath. While I understand I go to a public school, I never imagined there would be such a conflict between a holiday and a milestone event. Of all of the school events conflicting with the observance of Jewish traditions, it never occurred to me that our district would place our graduation on a Jewish holiday. This was the one event I anticipated with excitement. The one event I thought for sure would not be on a Saturday or any other holiday. Our district prides itself on the diversity, but in this situation failed to honor it.  Even though there are only a few religious students, don’t we still count?  What happened to the saying “We Are One”?

 

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    Maggi KreishehJan 30, 2015 at 8:36 pm

    As an alumni, a past editor-in-chief, and a past member of student government, I completely understand your frustration because I would’ve felt the same way. Even though the board might have tried to fix their mistakes, they most likely did not try hard enough. It’s not like this is the only thing they have messed up on. Nevertheless, graduation is such a hype. I did not attend my graduation or my prom last year and honestly, it was the best decision I had ever made. I totally understand your point, and I am sorry that it is going this way for you but try to always look at the bright side; that’s honestly the only way you will get out of North. (:

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    AnthonyDec 18, 2014 at 12:33 am

    As someone who doesn’t have anything stopping him from going to graduation, I find it ridiculous that the date hasn’t been changed yet. Students have been fighting to get the date changed since the begining of the year and graduation is still plenty far away. There is absolutely no reason the date can’t be changed and the school needs to acknowledge that fact. We need to get this issue addressed asap.

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    Madi GardnerDec 17, 2014 at 10:41 pm

    Miriam, I love that you wrote this article and continue to lend a voice to the tough situation that you and other students are facing because of this year’s graduation date. But I think that it’s important to emphasize that the Board of Ed did not make a quick decision about this. They plan the school year schedule very much in advance and altering it is too complicated to be possible. It’s also important to remember that it was not a discriminatory act — simply a mistake. And that they are still looking into potential solutions, such as alternative housing for the weekend for the families affected. Obviously that’s not as great a fix as moving the date of graduation, but it is something and shows how the Board is trying to accommodate its students just as it does with every other district situation. The Board has also said that even though they cannot change for this year, they will change it for next year so that this doesn’t happen again. It’s not perfect, but there is effort on both sides. Again, I think your writing is great & this is definitely something that should be publicized more, but I’d also like to avoid any miscommunication for how the district is handling it. Thank you! 🙂

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